”Being positive has become a new form of moral correctness.”
”Normal, natural emotions are now seen as good or bad.”
Tough emotions are part of our contract with life. We don’t get to have a rewarding career, a life filled with amazing adventures, or an intimate relationship by racing for the emotional exits.
Striving for an absence of difficult emotion is to have dead people goals. Don’t have dead people goals.
Emotions are the indicator lights of our hearts; they are here to direct us, not to define us.
Emotions reveal the essence of our personal truth and negative or painful emotions are simply an indicator of where our values are misaligned with what is happening.
If we are angry inside, does it mean we are an angry person? No. It’s an indicator that we have been living with a situation that is misaligned with how we have been treated, or how we are living.
If we are sad or in a state of despair, does it mean we are the depression we are feeling? No. Instead, it indicates that we have not yet fully processed something that has had a deep impact on us.
Avoiding emotion isn’t going to help us enrich our lives. It’s the emotion itself and exploring the emotion that offers rich and fertile ground for a shift, or for new awakenings to grow.
Discomfort is our price of admission to a meaningful life.