Relationship experts say that living in the here and now leads to a happy relationship. After all, what good can come from wistfully wondering what could have been if you’d stayed with so and so, or if only you’d done this rather than that. Living in the past blinds us to the happiness of our present and the opportunities of our futures. Living in a land of future fantasy can have the same effect. Try, if you can, to resist seductive chimeras and to ignore the paths you ended up not following. You are here, you are loved and everyday brings encouragement and new hope.